Three attitudes affect our communication with others: dignity, humility, and respect. Also important to our communication are five areas of confidence: in ourselves, in our relationship with the Lord, in our relationship with the people, in the importance of our ministry, and in the use of our tools.
A good worship leader must be a good communicator. Some people are born with a natural ability to communicate and lead, whereas others may have to work at it. This is an area that can be developed.
Foundational Attitudes
When considering the twofold relationship that has to be taking place when you are worship leading (i.e., communion with the Lord and with the people), the following three attitudes must become the foundation of all our thinking:
Dignity. The Oxford dictionary includes these definitions of dignity: “high or honorable office, rank, or title; high estimation; worth; proper stateliness; gravity.” We are children of the King of kings, so hold your head up and don’t apologize for your ministry. See yourself as a worthy minister and servant of your Lord.
Humility. We are children of the King of kings only because of what he has done for us, and we have no merit or right to this position in ourselves. Humility or meekness will ensure that dignity does not turn into pride.
Respect. To respect is to esteem and honor others. We must show great respect toward the Lord and his people when leading worship. It is possible that this respect is very much related to the attitudes of dignity and humility.
These three must become intertwined for there to be a solid foundation for good communication.
Confidence in Leadership
As the Lord develops the above three attitudes in our character, there then can come confidence to work as a worship leader. There are several areas of confidence that can be built up, and in so doing, our ability to communicate effectively will be improved:
Confidence in Yourself. Self-acceptance is a most important aspect of good communication with others.
Confidence in Your Relationship with the Lord. This may seem basic, but there are so many who do not know real assurance in their relationship with God. How can you lead others in a worship relationship with the Lord if you are lacking in this area? To do this, you must maintain a repentant and righteous walk with God; and know how to hear from God. You must have confidence in this, or you will never be able to lead and bring direction.
One of the biggest questions people have when moving in the supernatural is, “The thing I feel to do or say—is it really God or is it me—or possibly the devil?” Jesus said that His sheep would know his voice (John 10:27). This is a key in worship leading.
Confidence in Your Relationship with the People. This will never come about unless they know that you can be trusted and that you understand their needs and desires. It is not a matter of getting up in front with great confidence in yourself and God and then forgetting the people. Pray and intercede for God’s people. Develop a heart like a shepherd’s. Respect them and be quick to put things right with anyone whom you may have offended.
Confidence in the Job That Has to Be Done. Many people are nervous and timid in leading because they do not know where they are going, how long they have to get there, or the direction in which they should travel. When you are worship leading, find out how much time you have and if the pastor feels that the meeting should be going in a particular direction. There is a wonderful sense of release that comes when you are not proceeding “in the dark”—you have heard from God or the pastor or both. There is such security in that. Know what you can and cannot do.
Confidence in the Use of Your Tools
Overhead projector or songbooks or hymnals. Know how to turn on the projector and focus it. If you use songbooks or hymnals, know the number of each song.
Microphones. Don’t blow into the microphone, nervously poke it, or hide behind it. Learn how to operate this important piece of equipment. It really is one of your greatest friends because it gives your voice added strength and volume for leadership. Know how to adjust the microphone to your height.
Chorus/hymn list. Have these in one file and keep it with you. This is an important tool because you should be able to lead a service or pull just a few songs right out of the file if your songs are correctly listed thematically and alphabetically.
Music. The greater confidence you have in using and working with music and the musicians, the greater will be your ease in this area.
These may seem like simple points, but any lack in these areas will make you look like you do not know what you are doing and will, therefore, hinder your ability to communicate effectively. If you don’t know what you are doing, then the people will not be at ease following you. It is a reasonably simple matter to take time with these practical considerations.
Communication is a fairly complex matter, and it is not within the scope of this entry to go into great detail on the art of communication. It is, however, a very important aspect of worship leading. One of the greatest keys we have found is seeking to be transparent and real in our relationship with God and his people. Many times you may have to minister to yourself and lead yourself as much as you are leading others in worship. In ministering to yourself and encouraging yourself, you will probably be touching others as well. The songs you use and the things you say will have added strength and relevance.